Quick Summary of the
Differences Between Court and Mediation:
COURT PROCESS | vs. | MEDIATION |
Judges and the law control outcome | Attorneys and clients control the outcome | |
Takes place in court – formal | Takes place at an office – informal | |
Judge makes decisions for you | You and other party make your decisions | |
Risk because the judge has broad discretion | Certainty – avoid risk of outcome in court | |
Costly, whether you win or lose | Less costly in the long run | |
Time consuming with many details | Quick because it looks at the big picture | |
No idea how long final result will take | You’re usually finished the day of mediation | |
Decision based on the law (not very flexible) | Decision based on your goals | |
Win/lose structure | Compromise and possibly a win/win | |
Even “winning” takes a huge emotional toll | Relief of a finished legal situation | |
Public forum, even with embarrassing marital fault or child custody testimony | Private forum. Fault is not the focus nor is it part of “the record” in a court room | |
Adversarial – different goals | Part adversarial and part cooperation | |
Full disclosure and penalty of perjury | More trust is involved | |